Thursday, July 9, 2009

Signs

I am always looking for signs. When Noah was in the NICU no one got me flowers or balloons or any of the other celebratory baby things. There were no cigars passed around and no room filled with roses. My aunt is the only one who brought us something, everyone else seemed to be mourning or just didn't know what to do or say. My aunt brought us apple cider doughnuts and a mums plant. At the time I thought it was kind of a weird gift and honestly my husband and I will never be able to eat another apple cider doughnut again because it reminds us of that horrible first night.... but the mums plant did bring me my first sign of things to come.
On the day I was getting discharged without my baby, I picked up the lonely mum and quickly noticed a ladybug on it. A ladybug means good luck. a lady bug was a sign. It would be ok. I never mentioned it to anyone but later that week my mother mentioned to me that she saw a ladybug in the room on our day of discharge and it confirmed to me that it was a sign that everything would be alright.
When we were discussing having another baby I was looking for signs all over the place. I was trying to calculate due dates, linking them to birthdays or death dates of my grandparents....thinking someone that if it lined up with one of those, it would be a sign that they would be watching over us and that once again, everything would be alright.
Once I got pregnant I had a bad feeling from the start. I had this gut feeling that everything was not going to be alright. This sign I tried to ignore.
My period is due in a few days and after that we have the green light to try this again. I tried not to look into too many signs but I found one of those due date calculators, plugged in the date of my last period which should be July 12th, 2009 and up popped an estimated due date of 4-20-10. The baby we miscarried was conceived on 4-20-09. Is it a sign??? Obviously I am not trying to read into it and chances are we will not get pregnant right away, but it's nice to think that these little coincidences are somehow meant to be....

Only time will tell....


1 comment:

Beth said...

that is pretty cool, how the dates coincide. i definitely believe in signs... i've had quite a few experiences with them...

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